I am the mother of the bride to be and divorced from the dad. My daughter is a good terms withe step mom and I get along with her. does she stand with the wedding party or what?// Also does she sit at the table with the wedding party?
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I’d say it honestly depends. It depends on how close your daughter feels with this woman. It depends on how well you get along with her (since the stepmom should never make the MOB feel uncomfortable or anything) but since you say you get along, it sounds like it would be okay.
There is no rule set in stone and it is based on individual family situations. If the bride wants her to, then yes. If the bride does not want her to, then no. I’m the new wife and I would be thrilled if my step-daughters asked me to be in the receiving line and would be understanding if they did not want me there.
She should sit either next to her husband or at another table with other members of her husband’s family.
The ex-wife and I get along well. In fact, my MIL is dying and I already told my husband that it is ok with me if the ex-wife sits in the front pew with us at the funeral. I figured the girls might want their mom there with us.
Since you & the bride are on good terms with her. It wouldn’t be wrong to include her in the receiving line. It also wouldn’t be wrong to exclude her from the receiving line.
I think it goes a long way towards goodwill if you do include her. She is the wife of the father of the bride. But it should be up to you and the bride if she is to be included.
I have never been to a wedding where any of the parents sit with the wedding party. The wedding party is normally seated at the head table — or just the bride & groom have a sweetheart table. The parents usually have their own special table near the happy couple. She would be seated with her husband at the wedding reception.
She is part of the family she should be included. Right!
Both of you should be involved in some way, yes. My friend has a new step mom (only a year or so) and included her in the seating at the front of the chapel, and the table for family members. I don’t believe she was seated during the honored guest part of the ceremony, but that is for blood relation (or if you were raised by said step mom)
I dont see why she should not stand with the parents to greet the guests. You should stand in front and beside your ex and she should stand on the other side of him so you all greet the guests. If you are remarried rhere is no reason why your new partner cannot stand with the stepmom too.
as long as the bride and groom are happy with the arrangements that is all that matters. it is their big day.
There is also no reason why she should not sit at the top table if there is room, but she should be further away from the bride and groom than the blood parents.
It’s totally up to the bride. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Same with a step-father.
That depends on the relationship of the family. If the bride is close to both of you, if would be nice if everyone put the feeling of the bride and groom first on their special day.
Although it is up to your daughter, Step-mom should be invited to participate in the family activities. If the family is standing in the greeting line, Step-mom shouldn’t be estranged from the family & cast to the side to feel awkward & left out. If the family is all sitting together at one table, then she obviously would sit with her husband (the bride’s father).
They’re married now. She’s part of the family. Obviously, she can never take your place, but for the sake of your daughter’s happiness, please be civil toward her. My parents are going through a divorce now and for some reason, the only thing my mom really cries to be about is “It just pains me to think Michelle will be a part of your life. When you have kids, I hope you won’t let her hold him/her/them! When your brother gets married, I hope he doesn’t invite her!” and it’s nothing but utter selfishness. Please don’t be like that, for your daughter’s sake. Trust me, it’s horrible being put in the middle like that. At my wedding, my husband’s parents (divorced) had to sit near each other and they were so cold to each other that his mom actually made a scene b/c she was physically sickened by being near her ex-. It was awful.
It all depends on her relationship to the step mom. If she feels that the step mom is an important enough part of her life she’ll include her in those things. My husbands step mom was in the receiving line with us and we would not have had it any other way, we love her and she is part of the family. It isn’t the same for everyone though. Ask your daughter and see how she feels.
The step-mom should be seated with her husband at the reception. Having her in the receiving line or announced when the bride’s father enters the reception is the bride’s call.
At the ceremony she should be seated with the immediate family. If the logistics work, next to the bride’s father or at least in the same row. Think of how you would want your spouse to be treated if you were remarried.
If you haven’t yet spoken to your daughter about her step mother’s role in the wedding, you should. Let her know that you are okay with going along with her wishes.
Honoring her as the bride’s stepmother is not going to diminish your position as mother as the bride. If anything, it will show the guests that you are mature, comfortable in yourself, and above pettiness.
Her place is beside her husband, wherever he is.