I was filling out a wedding attendance response card and have no idea what the “M” means. Here is what the card says:
Kindly Respond
On or before April 1, 2009
M _____________
Accept______ Regret_______
Number of persons_______
I of course get the rest of it; I just have no idea what I am supposed to put where it says, M____________
Thanks
Okay, so how do I state my response to that if my fiance, my daughter, and I are attending. Is there a certain way in which it should be stated – etiquette in the order. It is my cousin’s wedding. Do I just put my name there since it gives space for number of persons?
Mr. Mrs. or Miss, Ms.
miss, mrs., mr. ms.
hope this helps,
misspositive15
its for the title of someone suchas mr,name,mrs name, miss name. or ms name.
Hope this helps
The creator of this card was probably thinking that the recipient would fill in something like
Mr Ezekial Jukes and family
Accept __x__ Regret _____
Number of persons __4__
What the creator deserves is something like
My entire family
Accept __x__ Regret _____
Number of persons __24__
IMO, the whole concept of response cards is a bad one. First, it’s kind of insulting that the sender thinks I’m too lazy or rude to RSVP unless I a get an idiot proof address stamped card to do it with. Second, in this case the sender didn’t bother to write in the names of the prospective guests, so it isn’t clear who may or may not be included. Third, it creates very awkward situations when guests “misunderstand” and use this ambiguity to invite guests of their own, without your permission.
Response cards are good for printers and the post office, bad for brides and guests. I suggest we all go back to something that actually worked — RSVP by phone.
you put mr., mrs., miss. there
Yes, if I were you I would put Mrs. Smith (obviously insert your last name) since it is your cousin. Then where it says number of persons put 3.
You can also put “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” instead of just your name.
Hope this helps.
If your fiance, daughter and you were included on the inside envelope (by name or as “Guest”), just put 3 on the “number of persons” line. For the “M” line, just put your title and name. And RSVP cards are such a good idea, but most people are too lazy to use them. My best friend was 20 dinners short at her wedding because 25 people didn’t RSVP or bother to mention they were coming. (They had 5 extra settings.) Kudos to you for responding!!!
When we were ordering the invites, I thought the M______ was not that great of wording, so we choose to put Guest name(s)_______________. (ideas for the wording were on the invitation site)
In your case though — the M___ stands for starting out writing Mr, Miss, Mrs……., For you, just write the names of those attending — you can start off with Mr____, then your name, your daughter’s name — it will be helpful to have all the names for the table cards.
You could get creative, and write “agnificent that you are getting married!”
But I would simply throw out the offensive little commercialized form, and write a proper response. Poor bride, to have fallen for this stationery-industry scam to get her to buy more product — product that in fact violates the expectations of good manners.
What you should do, to be perfectly correct, is take out a piece of good quality white note-paper, fold it in half, and write on it in your best script
” Ms Dolphin Silversea
” Dolphinette
” accept with pleasure the kind invitation of
” Miss Bride
” for Saturday the thirty-first of April at five o’clock”
Then you put it in a matching envelope, address it to the return address on the invitation, put your own stamp on it, and mail it. The bride can count the number of names you wrote down and come up with “2″ for herself. Your fiance, since he is not part of your household, writes a similar response for himself — unless he is actually living with you as your commonlaw husband, in which case you include his name with yours on the first line:
“Miss Dolphin Silversea and Mr Livin Fiance
” Dolphinette
“accept with pleasure &tc.
What a *Bride* should do, if she is “just trying to make it easy for people to rsvp”, is refrain from insulting them by suggesting they don’t own writing paper and by treating them like applicants filling out a government form, and give them a phone-number and email address as well as her return address so that they can choose the means of replying that is most convenient for them.
lol……………………………..I had the same problem with my guest at my wedding and it is stupid to put the M on their you could write mr or mrs on your own