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techdude on Tuesday, December 13th, 2011 |
6 CommentsI have been with my husband for 6 years now. Every year his parents seem to become more and more hateful towards me. I don’t know what to do to solve the problem and need some help.
I just turned 22 and they didnt even call on my birthday. They knew it was my birthday because my husband spoke to them two days before about pitching in for a hotel for our first year anniversary and my bday present. His mom agreed but refused to speak about it at the time because her spoiled rotten daughter was home and gets jealous easily, My husband let it go but they never called for our anniversary or my birthday and I just found it very rude.
Let me also mention that my husbands parents are not short of money. They make money hand over fist, Over ten thousand dollars a month off of an idea that I gave them. If it was not for my idea then they would be flat broke. I never said anything about it to them though. They have no mortgage or anything so its all profit except of course for the horses that they buy for pleasure riding and lessons which I think is just a total waste of money.
See, we are going through a very tough financial time. We have never and will never ask them for money but we don’t because they tell us flat our “we can’t help you” we are not in financial distress because we dont work. We are a very young couple starting out (22 and 24) My husband works a full time job and I work part time while going to school full time and have a part time kennel at home that I handle on the side, but school is expensive and we are just barely getting by.
On our wedding day they never helped with a thing and his father freaked out on us because his mother bought him a shirt from wall mart for 20 bucks. His father didnt even speak to us on our wedding day which really hurt because my parents were not able to be there. We had a very small wedding with only four people and they made us pay for their dinner, photography and everything. She even complained about having to do my hair which really hurt because my mom couldnt do it. I shopped for my dress alone.
When I told them I wanted to go to school to be a nurse they told me I could never be one and that it was a stupid idea. I finished my first year and I was on the deans list and they never even bothered to care. They never ask how school is going and when we told them we were having trouble getting a loan for school they told me at the dinner table I should either drop out or become a stripper. They call me lazy and stupid all the time and I just stay polite and try not to let it bother me. I dont know how to deal with it anymore.
Are they jealous because they have a failure daughter of their own? It has always seemed like they were trying to get her to compete with me or something.
Do they just hate me?
What should I do? Should I give it to them? What should I say?
PLEASE HELP
JUDITH — I dont think youre understanding the issue. When you get married your in laws become your family. They have absolutely no right to treat me or my husband the way they do. Do you honestly think it’s ok for them to tell me to drop school and become a stripper? Thanks for the crap advice… you must be a mother in law urself