I am in a wedding party and the bride has gone a little bridezilla-y recently. When she sent out invitation to the rehersal dinner, she specified explicitly what guests should wear giving specific examples such as men should be wearing kackis, dress shirts, ties and dress shoes. I thought this was a little rude and unnecessary because most people know to dress up for a rehersal dinner and you can simply specify semi-formal dress on the invite if necessary, but I let it go. However she recently sent out a reminder to the wedding party again telling us what to wear to the rehersal dinner and reminding us to wear our bridesmaids dress with matching shoes to the wedding. I sort of felt like she was insulting my (and the rest of her bridesmaids intelligence). Wear the ugly dress you just bought, duh!

She’s been driving me crazy recently and I can’t decide if I’m annoyed because she is being rude or because she is such a control freak with this whole wedding thing. So opinions please. Is she being rude?
To anyone who thinks that a wedding is your special day and means you get to act like a psychotic lunatic for the period leading up to it, your opinion is absurd. Weddings do not mean you get to walk all over your friends. I’ve been putting up with her increasingly ridiculous and expensive requests, temper tantrums and drama for over a month and have not said a word because I don’t need to stir up more issues for the girl before her wedding. I’m sure she’ll go back to her normal lovely self after the wedding. However, she has set the example for me of how not to behave when getting married. This is a purely hypothetical question to try to understand my own feelings towards her.