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techdude on Tuesday, December 20th, 2011 |
2 CommentsI have been to part of one stag (a mutual friend of mine and the friend I’m being Best Man for) but that’s it. I went to the strip club with them but they also had supper before that but I wasn’t there for that part because they thought the groom’s father might find it weird that a girl was there but since he wasn’t invited to the strip club part, I got to go to that.
And just for the record: Yes, I’m a girl. No, I’m not gay. I’m married to a man. I will be in the wedding party as the Best Man and I will wear a tux just like the groomsmen (the groom’s two brothers). My husband is invited (they were friends in high school and still are friends) but not part of the wedding party.
Anyway.
What am I supposed to plan? Is it supposed to include a meal? I have no problem with strip clubs but we can’t have anyone to the house because I have a child and don’t really have a big enough house to have people over for that anyway. We can just show up at the strip club, right? I don’t have to arrange anything with the place ahead of time, do I?
We all play Halo on a semi regular basis (used to be weekly but we’ve all gotten busier as we’ve gotten older). Is that something you’d do with a big group of guys that that enjoy (really enjoy) playing. We could add in drinking or something lol. Is that too childish (we’re all about 26-33 in the core group of friends and family).
None of the guys are sports fans AT ALL. Most especially the groom. He doesn’t watch them, follow them, play them – nothing. He is active though. He’s in good shape and is currently doing P90X (I’m doing it with him when I can). Is there something we can do that’s active (go carts, paintball, etc) that’s not inappropriate or childish?
Is it ok to ask the groom what he wants or do I have to make it up all on my own. Can I ask his brothers for help?
I really want to do a good job and not let me friend down. I’m going to look online for ideas and get a ‘how to’ book but I thought some real opinions and suggestions would be good.
Thanks!
lol I’m not asking the bride’s permission. I know my friend respects his fiance enough to make the right decision, whether that’s to go to a strip joint or not.