we are two femmes and would like to avoid the church thing but we would still like to walk down the aisle, wear wedding dresses, have a wedding party

we want the ceremony to represent LOVE not necessarily lesbian relationships and don’t want to be over the top in such a way that it would offend guests

also, we’re looking for some unique reception ideas
chicken: if you’re a girl, maybe you can join the honeymoon…. just kidding!

irene c… not sure that i understand your response

c3ss… we currently live in florida (which will likely be the LAST state to allow same sex marriage but luckily, I’m Canadian, where same sex marriage is legal, so we’ll likely head up north to get the marriage license but have a ceremony down in the states

thanks for all the ideas so far everyone!!

i was thinking that for the wedding party, instead of having groomsmen and bridesmaids, to have four different sets of couples walk down the aisle

1 – a heterosexual couple
2 – a gay couple
3 – a femme-femme couple
4 – a femme-stud couple

i figure that this will show that love can come in many different forms, what do you think?

Can you tell me what to expect on our wedding night and what I should be doing to hin to make it as memorable as possible? I do love him so much.

I’m getting married in November. I currently live with my fiancee in a nice apartment and we’re really happy with where our lives are going. We’ve been dating for about 4 1/2 years now and I popped the question late last year. Now, we are both young (by the time the wedding rolls around, I’ll still be 21 and she will be 22). I would still have a semester of college left by the time we’re married.
There is an upside and a MAJOR downside that we’ve been facing the past year. The upside: Her family couldn’t be more excited that we’re getting married. They’ve been helping us with the arrangements and are being completely supportive, while on the other hand, my family has been so-so. My parents are very “old-school.” They were not thrilled whatsoever when I decided to move in with my fiancee and every time I try to talk to them about the wedding, my dad will just say “oh, great” then look the other way, and my mom will continuously say, “well, we can give you a bigger wedding if you wait.” Pretty much, since it’s not going my mother’s way, she has to make sure to change everyones mind in order to make it everything she wants. I’ve pretty much dealt with her doing that my entire life.
Sure, my fiancee and I get in arguments and fights, but we do love each other, and I know she’s always going to be there for me, but it’s just stressful knowing my own parents don’t want to be on the same boat. Since my mom has been acting like this, it’s put a huge strain on my fiancee’s and her relationship. That is also really tough on me, because family is VERY important to me, and I don’t want tension between both of our families, because then I would feel as though it was my responsibility that it happened. Has anyone else had to face this problem?
Onto my next predicament. While I was reading into different articles about getting married young, one thing that caught my eye was “your relationship with your friends will change drastically.” This got my heart racing a little bit, because I have to very good friends whom I wouldn’t want to see our friendship change. Both of my friends (who are male), like to frequent the bars, dance with girls, and just go out and have a good time. While I’ve really never been like that, it has really never seemed to bother them. They have never been in a serious relationship. Both of them just date girls for a few weeks, then move on. But as for me, since I’ve known both of them, I’ve had the same girlfriend. One of my friends and my fiancee are very good friends as well, which always makes me happy, but my other friend, their relationship is just…meh. My fiancee constantly reminds me, “I can assure you, by the time we’re married, nothing will change. I still expect you to go out with your friends and keep close relationships. The only major things that are going to change, is your going to have a ring on your finger and you’ll be the only one in a committed relationship until the find someone themselves.” I’m just concerned that my friends will not want to “hang” with me the same way. Has anyone else had this problem? What did you do to overcome it?
Granted, we both understand that we are young, and we’ve put A LOT of thought into being married to one another, but when you have anxiety problems and tons of stress, thinking about everything under the sun, like I do, then I hope you can understand why I’m trying to address these issues.
Thank you very much for any feedback!