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techdude on Friday, June 17th, 2011 |
No CommentsMy fiance and I had always planned on eloping. We chose our resort, but later realized that it was absolutely too much money ($1395 A NIGHT) so we decided we should just get married locally and have a small ceremony with our immediate families.
I was okay with this, so I planned everything out. We’re getting married outdoors and the reception is at a restaurant and I have my dress, so there’s not much more for me to do at this point.
We just chose our honeymoon location, and we’re staying at a beachfront bungalow where everything behind us is the rainforest.
When I saw the place we chose, it brought me back to our original plans. Our original plans of private vows, a cake for two, and dancing in the sand in the moonlight after our candlelit dinner.
Now, I don’t even feel excited about the wedding plans we have now. I feel like the romance isn’t even there because of how much more romantic it could be with eloping.
I know most people believe in at least having family at their wedding, but my fiance and I are extremely private and shy, and my family isn’t close… at all.
Plus, when we had our original plans of eloping, his family told us that they would gladly throw a ‘welcome home newlyweds’ party of some sorts, where we could celebrate our wedding with everyone.
I told my fiance about this, but now he’s leaning towards the outdoor wedding with family, because he says that by having the small wedding, we can celebrate with our family and we get to go to the rainforest, so we get both experiences without missing out.
I’m leaning towards eloping, because I don’t care about the honeymoon. I don’t want both experiences. All I care about is our wedding.
Now what do I do? Do I just give up the idea of eloping and accept my small wedding with family???
**(Our wedding is still a year away, so changing our plans isn’t too disrupting)**
I’m going to speak with my fiance about this more, but I just wanted some opinions beforehand.
Does anyone else get why I want to elope so badly?
Thanks to everyone who answers.
Thanks Vibiana. No one on my side of the family will care, but my fiance’s parents (particulary mom) will not be so happy. But when we told her at first, she said she supported us and just make sure to tape it. So I think she would be okay.