I got engaged last month, planning a wedding for January 2011. My best friend has been saying how jealous she is that I am engaged. Now she told her boyfriend she wants to get engaged ASAP so that she can get married before me.

Previously, she had been telling me how she didn’t think she was ready to get engaged. Now all of a sudden she has changed her mind and it sounds like she is doing so out of jealousy. I am REALLY WORRIED she is making a big decision hastily to compete with me.

Should I tell her my concerns? If so, how? I am afraid she will not listen and will get angry with me. Maybe it isn’t my place to voice my concerns, and I should just be supportive. Also I am worried she will think that I just don’t want her to be “first”. Should I push back my own wedding so she can have a longer engagement but still be “first”?
My fiance and I don’t have a real date yet — we just got engaged a few weeks ago! He’s letting me pick whatever date I want as long as it’s between January and May of next year. So “pushing it back” a few months is trivially easy seeing as how we don’t have any firm plans yet.
I resent being called a spoiled brat because I’m thinking about changing my wedding day for a friend. My fiancé and I aren’t religious and our wedding is mostly to make our family happy — we are already privately committed to each other. We’re having a BBQ in the backyard of the house we’ve lived in for several years together, so it can be whenever we want it to be…