i just would like to know the intention of the Egyptian husband.
sorry this is so long, i just want to give background so every1 can understand the actual Q.
My Egyptian husband told me that isa we could start a family at 25. we married young at 19. we found out that neither of us was ready to be married, but that we made each other stronger; and we didn’t just want to be friends. i feel as though i made a terrible mistake {el7mdoillah not one i regret but question} i offered him a green card because i really like the guy and grew a soft spot for him, i wanted him to stay and be successful in the life. everyone please keep in mind masha’Allah he takes very good care of me when it comes to the basic, example – food, clothes, bills, shelter. i mean i’m not complaining about this. however, i’m so nervous because, my Egyptian friend told me that i got the butt of a crappy deal. she said if i was an Arab woman, i would’ve gotten a wedding and the whole nine yards with no Q asked – instead our wedding was a plain and rushed courthouse wedding in regular casual street clothes. i am considered an orphan child {no parents} so i had no one to help for a wedding, but his father owns business’ in Saudi {and just opened a restaurant here in America in January} and wanted to give us a wedding in Masr. so his father is well enough in $ that we could’ve had a wedding here instead of in Masr. i dreamed about that beautiful day my whole life and when it finally came it sucked. i found there was other options AFTER he rushed to marry me. he doesn’t communicate with me. i feel very lonely because he keeps to work all day. and he goes to school. i’m not complaining the man working and making a career for himself after all this is what i wanted for him. i just miss my husband because we get like 3 waking hours to each other a day, sometimes not even that. i miss him and i’m lonely. i also am nervous, when he speaks i have a general idea of what he is talking about in 3arabi. i myself am not fluent but i understand quiet a bit. recently i’ve caught him “sweet talking the female” in English and in 3arabi. telling them in text “oh i miss you too babe xoxox” {at co-workers} on the fone instead of saying “ya sana’a” he says “ya gameela/helwa” wtf! she’s not his wife nor sister! and we both have facebook. when people meet me the first thing they know is that i am married to him, i’ve got pictures and everything…he don’t even have one picture of us on there. he don’t tell his female classmates he’s married. i really am feeling so lonely. ok but back to the family topic. here is where my Q is…last year he changed our family plans from 5 years into the marriage than to age 25 {we both are the same age, now 23} now he changed it AGAIN to 28. we are not ready for a family at this time, we haven’t even reach yet the “first” family planed stage of 5yrs. we just had our 4th anniversary [in which we didn’t do anything due to no $} i just want to know is he just abiding time. he’s got already his green card now, after that is when the loneliness shortly followed. is he just playing games with me? taking care of me because he’s “grateful” not because he really loves me as his wife and has other plans after he gets what he wants.

jazaki Allahu kheir for reading and taking the time to read all of this. this is 4 years built up. yaraabi el7mdoillah
ya mahmoud, i did talk to him about it several times. but given it all, i’m not sure if he is sincere.