If we plan to do it the way we want to do it?
ugh its so fustrating!
anyways, my man and i are getting married at the courthouse in july and doing a wedding reception [renewal ceremony] in december. we’re not doing the courthouse wedding to exclude people or anything like that, just for legal reasons we have to get married within 90days and we also want to be able to go to Australia for our honeymoon [i cant leave the country til 90 days after im legally married] so we decided to do it this way

however… thats not the issue. so many people are understanding about that, and thats been an answer to our prayers. the issue is, is that my mom won’t come if we decide to have a ‘gothic, emo style’ wedding.

My mom and I went to toronto today for a mother-daughter weeekend where we talked about my wedding plans. I told her that my dress is black, birdcage veil, my normal makeup [smokey eye, pale face]. That the colours are black and electric blue. She immediatly said it was ridiculous and that it was a childish idea. She flat out said she would not come because it was santantic and dark. Which is so not true! the ceremony is being done by my fiance’s step father whose a pastor, so in no way is it going to be a ‘dark’ wedding.

The part that I really don’t understand is that this is who me and my fiance are! We love our style of music we love our life style and we don’t want a fake wedding, we want it to resemble us!

But if I don’t change it to her liking my own mother won’t show up?

What do I do? im so confused/sad/pissed off
I just wanna scream and cry at the same freaking time…

any advice.. would be greatly appreciated
ella
haha i wont look like a freak
but thanks for caring anyways? :S
me and my fiance are paying for alot of wedding, but my grandparents are helping out as well, they have alot of say, my grandmother is exactly like me so she loves my ideas. which is totally awesome, i couldnt ask for a better gammy

thanks everyone for your advice/opinions really appreciate it
love christmas lights – in canada its the same way, however we’re getting married in the US
there are two weddings, one at the courthouse with just my and my fiance and two friends or two family members. the other renewal wedding is in december where my fiance’s step father [a pastor] is going to do a renewal ceremony, he offered so we definetly took him up on it

i wouldnt expect anything from her, but it still hurts that she wont come

im not changing anything.