sample ways to ask for money instead of gifts for a wedding?
by techdude on Tuesday, April 19th, 2011 | 19 Comments
Instead of recieving gifts as a wedding present my fiance and I would like to recieve monetary gifts instead. I would like to know how could this be worded with my wedding invitations.
cant remember how i worded it but i used
This is a huge no-no. People are coming to your wedding as guests, and they are not obligated to buy you gifts, though of course many of them will. The gifts they choose should be gifts that THEY believe will bring you happiness or be useful to you. You do not get to tell other people what gift to give you, it’s just tacky.
PLEASE don’t do this. We received a wedding invitation with a request for money and not gifts, and everyone we know mentioned how tacky it was. I mean, EVERYONE commented on it. You don’t want that! Your wedding is not a fundraiser, please don’t turn it into one.
gifts are just that, gifts—they are made at the discretion of the giver. proper ettiquette is not to dictate what or what not a person may give you as a gift.
It would be tacky and rude to ask for money in your invitations.
You can do it by word of mouth intead, It’s more personal and you won’t look greedy demanding money on paper.
Ask you mom and his mom to tell their guests on their list one by one that you would prefer monetary gifts instead. You both can tell your friends about your decision as well.
Congrats and good luck
no gifts needed money tree will be at the reception for donations towards our honeymoon, also money dance , pay to dance with the bride or groom( you can get money trees at party stores or rent one )
you can’t do that. its unethical. Ask miss manners, she will tell you that. This question has been asked many times.
You should not put anything like that in your invitation. It is completely bad etiquette to even put the place you registered in the invitations!! You can only do that for the shower. The only thing that you can do is put the word out to your close family and close friends. Then when someone asks them where you are registered they can say that you are not registered and would prefer to get monetary gifts. I know this because I read it several times and also it is in the Emily Post book. Your guest will be offended if you tell them what to give you as a gift. I am sure that you will get things that you do not want because of this but just return them or put them in a closet to give to someone else. Thats what we did.
Tacky tacky tacky! How dare you dictate what others may give you as GIFTS? If you really don’t want any gifts, then have your parents and friends spread it by word of mouth, but do not put anything regarding gifts OR money in the invitation. That’s just rude on YOUR part!
at the bottom you can put:
Monetary gifts accepted. Or Monetary gifts peferrable.
As simple as that.
Good luck on your wedding day.
It can’t. There is simply NO POLITE WAY to tell people that you are expecting them to be giving you a present. One must allow them to enjoy the illusion that you have invited them because you care about them, not because you anticipate material gain. So, what you meant to ask was this: “How can I maneuver my guests around to where THEY ASK ME what sort of gift I might like to receive?”
Here is an answer I gave about invitations that will also answer your own question:
During the ‘confirmation’ calls I describe, most of these people will ASK YOU what you might like for a gift. So long as they bring the subject up on their own, with no prompting from you, there’s nothing wrong with telling them that your greatest lack is cash, cash, cash.
Congratulations and best wishes!
No, no, no! Chances are people will give money.
You can set up a money well or money tree at the reception. I know in some cultures the bride has a satchel that everyone stufs money in for the new family.
I would not suggest that you ask for it- it is very tacky. Set the money tree up at your head table and then the guests can dance with you through the night for $$.
You can’t put it in the invitation, it’s not proper etiquette, and it’s tacky. You have to have family and friends spread the word, but beware, you’re still going to get gifts, so you might as well register somewhere so you at least get what you want. I just got married this past June and we spread the word that we wanted money, but we also registerd at Bed Bath & Beyond for those that really don’t want to give money. We had our family and friends spread the word and if anyone seemed like they really didn’t want to give money then they were told where we were registered. We had a guest list of 110, and we got a lot of money and just a few gifts, it worked out perfectly. But, if you don’t register anywhere, you’re going to get gifts that you don’t want and can’t be returned. It will work, I promise. We got way more money than I ever thought and it really came in handy. Just register for a few things. You could even throw in some expensive stuff you know nobody will buy, and then they’ll have to give money.
Just one more comment. People on here are telling you to put out a money tree or a wishing well. Well, by the time they get to the reception, they all ready have a gift for you. You have to tell them in advance.
not on the invite.. but if they ask.. be honest.. Also don’t register for things you don’t want. For example don’t register at Bed Bath and Beyond when you want money. It will confuse people.
I’m sure you’d love to receive money instead of gifts.
Why not just say “Gimme Cash” right at the bottom of your invite?
Better still, just stand by the gift table and turn away anyone with something wrapped.
No, no, no, no, no. A gift is a gift, you cannot dictate if people bring something (some won’t) or what they bring. Be thankful for each and every item you receive. A gift is never expected, it is always optional, so never, ever dictate what people should give or bring.
Ever.
You don’t, putting your gift information on your invites is a huge NO-NO. Getting gifts is a something you should be grateful for, but you can’t except people to get you gifts.
Also asking for cash is not ok. There is no tactfully way. Have fun with it, register at non-traditional stores if you don’t need the typical house items. If you really don’t want gifts, ask people to donate to a charity in your name, by word of mouth
There are no sample ways that won’t offend virtually every single person you invite.
1. Weddings are about celebrating your marriage, your friends, and your family. They are not a fundraiser.
2. You NEVER should include gift information in your invites anyway.
3. To ask for money is exceedingly tacky. First, it assumes that you are even getting gifts. Secondly, it is like asking people to prove how much they like you via money. Tacky Tacky Tacky
4. Even money dances are horrendous. Again, a wedding is a celebration, not a place where money should even be discussed. I dislike money trees, but at least a guest can walk right by it without a big too-doo.
If you need money for a honeymoon, set up a honeymoon registry. I would probably dump an invitation that included gift info and send only a card if it was begging for money. It just lacks class, etiquette, and common sense.
Dear Jane,
I’m having a birthday party next week and I’d like you to come. Don’t bother bringing me a gift as all I really want is cash.
Signed,
Jenny
Do not do this; it is tacky and wrong. Do not include any hint of it in your invitations, and don’t tell people that’s what you want. It’s awful that you are even thinking like this…
what a cheek! When I get married – there wil be NO GIFT LISTS or requests, it will be bring what you want and can afford, I want the people Ilike and love to come to my wedding – not be put off by having to pay for things they cant afford, or to get offended. Nope I dont care if they get it from argos, or even from the pound shop if they cant afford anything else, or bring nothing at all, I want to see them – not their wallets. Besides most people dont come straight from home these days and mostly have all the things they need. I feel its really greedy and unfair to demand ‘value for money’ from your quests – you invited them. In old bible times people used to drink and feast for days and days on end – not several hours! There quests didnt get charged or were expected to bring ridiculous expensive gits. If you want money – save yours, go to the Justice of the peace, pay for 2 witnesses and do it that way – or do the 2 wotnesses have to bring a gift for the pleasure of seeing you wed after all – you’ve opaid for them!?