I can’t believe I’m asking this question, but I am interested to see what the answers will be. We’re both in our mid 20′s, waited because of religious beliefs, definitely understand the mechanics of it all, but I just wonder if any one else has been in the same situation and has any advice. Is there anything you’d had done differently or you really encourage? I know it won’t be perfect physically, but I feel it will be such a true joy to experience our first time in such a special way. He’s very, um “eager” already…what can I do to help him last a little longer? Thanks!
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bow chicka wa wow! its instinctive you’ll be alright
Hey there’s always oral to hold eachother over till the wedding!
u want to make it special so while your doing it go through is hair and just go with it it might hurt at first and u might bleed a little but the rest youll be fine
My hubby was my first when I was 22(when we were dating not on the wedding night) and my first thought was….that was it? I mean it was GREAT dont get me wrong, but all the thought I had put into who it would be with, where, etc. Its fun! and majorly enjoyable and sometimes I wish I had done it sooner.
Keep the bedroom ina very cozy and romantic
atmosphere; and get some tips from your parents
I would say. Just be gently and loving and kind to
each other in your expressions.
your find that its not half as romantic as you thought…it will be hot, sweaty, with alot of noises, but hey you’ll love it….enjoy
hey!! that’s what me and m fiance are doing too!! my mom said that it won’t be as great as you expect it to be at first. she said that it will hurt a lil bit and there may be a bit of blood (for girls) my man is also very “eager” and i am just hoping that i don’t disappoint him…but then again, he has nothing to compare it to! hehehe. just focus on taking it slow and communicating. sex is just another way to show your husband how you love him. and i’m sure after some practice, it will be darn good fun!
My recommendation is to be slow and into each other the whole time. There’s a big difference between knowing the mechanics of it and knowing how to make those mechanics achieve something very special between two people, so just make sure the experience is about the two of you and how much you love each other, and you’ll have a wonderful moment.
To help him last longer. You can use a condom. He will be less sensitive therefore “last longer.” About the rest don’t worry. If both of you care for each other it should be special. At least emotionally it will be.
I’m of 2 minds. On one hand, you’ve both made a beautiful gesture to each other by waiting for each other. Simply because of that, your first moments together will be special. You waited because of a shared belief. You married for love, and you will give each other your virginity as a seal of this love you share. This will be special no matter what happens.
On the other hand, it’s sex. everyone and everything has sex. It’s engrained in our beings, and as natural as breathing.
On a practical note… make sure your birth control methods are in place and keep some KY Jelly on hand in case you need it. You may not need it, but *just in case*. You want to be comfortable.
Buy yourself a copy of the Guide to Getting It On. It’s a great book, not smutty, and really informative. Prepare yourself for the fact that it will probably suck. I don’t know any woman who enjoyed her first time. I suppose it’s possible, but like I said I don’t know anyone who did. Most guys do enjoy it. Technically speaking, it’s alot easier for guys to enjoy it. Heck sometimes they enjoy it before it even happens properly. Get the book, it will be good for you.
Be prepared to laugh things off. No matter how ‘magical’ some people claim the first time is, if you’re both virgins, there will be a lot of awkward moments physically. However, if you keep a good attitude about it, and are willing to laugh at mishaps and not be embarrassed, you can still have a lot of fun together just getting to know each other’s bodies. Also, in terms of making him last longer, if it’s his first time, it might be hard to do that for a while – so spend much more time on foreplay, stroking, kissing, carassing, etc, to make the whole thing last longer. And remember, if it doesn’t go perfectly the first time, you have a whole lifetime together to improve!!
Congrats and good luck!
expect sex lol
My fiancee looked over my shoulder and says “Blood. Lots and lots of blood”.
LOL
It wasn’t that way for my first time..and by your mid 20s, I rather doubt it will be that way for you two.
Seriously? Don’t put too much pressure on yourselves for the first night.
First of all, most likely you will be EXHAUSTED by the time you get to your hotel room. You will have had one of the busiest, most stressful and most exciting days of your life…you may not have the energy left to do anything in the bedroom. Many people I’ve talked to said they waited until the next morning/night.
Second, Whenever you decide to make love the first time (first night or not), take it slow. Take the time to discover each other and do not rush it…allow yourselves time to explore and relax. The largest organ of the body is the skin. Do not focus just on sexual areas….play with the whole body, not just a few inches of it.
Thirdly: TALK to each other…When something feels good, say so…same for negative sensations…TELL your partner and have your partner tell you how he is feeling. This is a learning experience for both of you. No one should feel like they need to perform well…it will probably be awkward, and there may be some “Oops” moments. Those “Oops” moments will later be the things you guys laugh about.
As for your fiance lasting longer…don’t expect him to last very long at all the first few times. There is a lot of anticipation behind this first act…But you are both young…Even if the first round is quick…you have the rest of your lives to do it again!
So, No pressure, Have fun, Take it slow and communicate.
Good luck!
Kat
Probably lots of disappointment.