My boyfriend is taking me to his friend’s wedding. Is it appropriate for me to get up to catch the bride’s bouquet? Am I still considered “single” (not married) even though I’m in a relationship with my boyfriend? What are the rules when it comes to the bride’s bouquet toss?
I am 21 years old
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I think it is both appropriate and polite to take part in the bouquet toss, if you don’t want to catch it ( for fear of making your b/f think you want to get married ) then just put in a really lame attempt and let someone else catch it.
There is also the tradition of the guys catching the ladies garter, so you might need to think about that one as well.
Hope you have fun.
You don’t have to do anything. Especially if you don’t know the bride, you’re just going because your boyfriend knows them. If you’re not comfortable with it, don’t do it! I would talk to your boyfriend about it first, though. That way he doesn’t think you’re being rude to his friends if you just don’t get up and participate.
you are still single … the whole idea is who catches it is the next to be married
Yes! Not only is that a fun part of the wedding, but it is considered okay to get up to catch the bouquet if you are in a relationship but not married. Before my marriage I did lots of fun bouquet catching and my husband did a lot of garter catching! Have some fun with it!
Yes, you’re legally single. I think girls go up to catch the bouquet until they’re engaged. That’s what I did, at least. So go, have fun.
You know, you may not even catch it. And if you do, it’ll be a fun memorabilia. 
Either or. Whichever you like. Personally, I really hate it as a tradition, but I threw mine because it was easier.
i’ve attended about 3 or 4 weddings for people in my boyfriend’s family (i’m 22), and every time they always MAKE me go up there and catch it, or at least strongly persuade me to! I always find it really awkward… if you really don’t want to participate and don’t really care if you see it, you could use that time to take a “bathroom break” and sneak off…. : ) or if you just want to sit and watch and people want you to get up, i’m sure you can come up with a catchy reason… “no thank you, I want when I’m getting married to be a surprise!” or something.
Technically you are still single. Only married women do not participate in the bouquet toss. But when I was single, I hated that toss so I refused to go up there.
No married women. if you are single, engaged, divorced or a widow you can participate.
Tradition states that the gal who catches it is the next one to marry, so as long as you aren’t married, go ahead and join the fun! good luck.
You are considered part of the ‘single’ ladies but honestly if you really don’t want to you shouldn’t have to. That doesn’t mean of course that the other single ladies around you aren’t going to pressure you. (and in some cases the DJ as well) but if it’s not something that you’re interested in you shouldn’t have to do it.
I went to my fiance’s friends wedding with him in May. Funny thing was, we weren’t engaged yet and the bride asked me to go up to catch the bouquet. I don’t know if they had it planned out or what but I ended up catching the bouquet (I even tried to avoid it), and my fiance caught the garter. It was a fun thing to do and thankfully he caught the garter (or the guys let him since they were all stationed together). You are still considered single so if you want to do it, I say go for it but if you don’t feel comfortable, then you don’t have to either.
Yes…because it’s not so much for single ladies but more for the unwed.
Yes, you’re considered single unless you are married. So to be polite, you should participate. If you don’t want to catch it, then don’t try. I’m sure there will be enough ladies trying to catch it.