My brother is getting married soon. His fiancee and him have decided to have NO wedding party at all – not even a maid of honour and best man. However, they did decide to have my daughter as a flower girl.

Today I picked up her outfit that my brother’s fiancee chose for my daughter, and it is HIDEOUS! It’s an ivory tutu (which is ok), with a pure white wife-beater tank top! The top is literally a cotton, ribbed, wide-strapped, wife-beater undershirt. And not only that, but it also completely clashes to have a pure white top with an ivory skirt.

I am horrified that my daughter has to wear this, and very concerned that all of the guests (most of who I don’t know at all) will think I am some awful mother who dresses her daughter like a freak!

I don’t really have the option of telling my brother’s fiancee that I hate the outfit – we don’t have that kind of relationship at all. So my daughter will have to wear it to the wedding.

But can you reassure me that if you were a guest that you would assume that the bride had chosen the flower girl’s outfit and not her own mother?

Also, please let me know if somehow I am just totally old and out of touch with current fashion and that outfit sounds nice to you. The bride works in fashion, so maybe I’m wrong?
This is what the skirt looks like:

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And this is what the top looks like:

http://www.google.ca/imgres?imgurl=http://cache.pixazza.com/product/full/b0f4c5d0bc.jpeg&imgrefurl=http://buzzstyle.justjared.com/store/similar/b0f3948c0d/lace-layered-skirt/&usg=__eVLFOTZNBBOJl8r1flIm-3MeSbs=&h=400&w=336&sz=12&hl=en&start=86&zoom=1&tbnid=hBAhCZZD4SHTeM:&tbnh=16

You can see that the skirt is definitely ivory and the shirt is definitely white, and ugly.
I think I’m just going to casually mention when chatting with other guests at the reception “isn’t the outfit that _____ chose for _____ to wear cute?”. That way everyone knows she chose it.